Hi Hardik, Cool Ris, Reunite and all my friends.

I am back to the spare one again. It been one year now from the time that I am back in here, after signing that shit doc what they wanted me to sign for their safety. I hope you remember, his parents wanted me to sign a contract saying it was all my mistakes, and my short temper etc etc, and I had treaten them of police etc etc. This was not true but I had signed it, coz anyways I never had plans to go to the police and I loved my husband and wanted to give a second chance for this marriage. And I know they needed this doc, thinking in future if I go to the police they can safeguard themselfs. I had never been even once to the police.

Anyways, I was simply trying to work things out. YOu know after I signed and I was back things were fine a bit, but went worst. They took me for granted. He knew I was so blindly in love with him, that I will never leave him. For every small fight he started treatning me of divorce. He slapped me in front of his parents on little little things. He started coming home any time, and never made love to me.He used to sleep in the hall most of the times. And as you know my FIL has always been out, my MIL has always wanted my hubby to sleep with her. Now things were very open in front of me. And some things I could not share here.

I honestly tried all possible ways, but when my hubby is not on my side there is no point. Now even he wants a divorce mutually. When I said no, its been 4 months he does not speak with me, nor his family, he sleeps with his mom in her bedroom and locks the door. I yet continued doing my daily work, like cooking cleaning, pooja for all etc etc. But then his mom asked him to stop eating what I made. She constantly kepy murmering and mutteriing lots of dirty words for me. I kepy quite. She and my hubby both even hit me, I kept quite. my FIL pushed me out of the house at 11.00 pm, I kept quite.

But now, my love is dead for him. I am wasting my life here. and its been 12 months. I tried all the nuksas, as you can imagine how much this marriage meant for me. My husband forced me to abort my first child as well. Now I think it is good.

My bro was in favour of divorcing him with alimoney, for teaching them a lesson, and then to donate that money to the orphan age homes. That money is just to teach him a lesson. And I am not agiasnt that, but I know how these people are, and would make the things more ugly. Hence I have no itention of Alimoney, or fight any cases or complaint in police. I simply wanna be out of this shitty place.

My Q to you all is, they do not have any manners to speak. Hence I am thinking of speaking with one of his relative who is good with me and he is also on my side. And he would become the mediator for both the parties. And would ask him to inform them, that the girl is ready for mutual divorce with no alimoney. Is there anything else? you think I should take care of?

He will accept this divorce very happily I am sure. He time passed with his X GF for 7 years left her, and with me for one year. This person cannnot stop at one girl. Anyways, do you think I need to go to the lawyer later, or is there any other way for mutual divorce?

What is the first step for Mutual Divorce when both parties agree with no alimoney from the girls side? Do I have to hire a lawyer?

Thank you so much all.

Riya (Mumbai)

Hi Please Help me!

I received a notice form the court in this house by a person coming in the house from court. And I have a date in the court on Dec 19th. He has also filed allegations along with that to dissolve this marriage. I told him very smilingly, that I was anyways divorcing him mutually. If he would have spoken with me, I would have simply given it to him. I told him then and there itself, that I do not want any alimony from him.

And then I questioned him, how could he lie so much abt me? He said do not worry if you are giving mutual divorce these things would not even come in place. I know this is not right, and he should be punished for what he did with my life. But I have already wasted my life behind this marriage, and fighting this case would be more time consuming. Hence I made a decission, of leaving him free and again cheat one more girl, and move out of this asap.

Please direct me,

1. Should I ask my lawyer to ask him, to file a fresh application for mutual divorce?

2. Since the current one is dated Oct 2011, my lawyer suggested tht I need not even worry for 6 months, this would be done in 3 months. And she said he would need to take all his false charges back, and then only we will agree for mutual divorce. Which he would be happy to do so.

I am concerned then what happens to that petition he filed? Would that be null and void? or should I also file another petition replying to his, and then go with a mutual divorce.

All I want is my records should show clean for my second marriage should not be a prob. I want to be out of this asap, with no hassles. Please suggest.

Hi riya dee

Am sorry to know about all what uve gone through..as u tried to save ur marriage and gave ur best , i know this since past year..u were so positive..

Anyhow its best to leave him and divorce him amicably ,if people cannot mend their ways then its no use waiting for them or to waste yourself for them..

tk cre

Thanks Aish! Yes I remember you and all as well. But do not know where has everybody gone. When I really need Hardik and actual legal help, no one is replying. Please help me legally now....

the petition filed by him can be amended by moving an application u/o 6 rule 17 of CPC or the same can be withdrawn and petition for MCD can be filed.  however, you will have to wait for 6 months and in case you are told that the divorce can be done within 3 months, it is a wrong suggestion.  as per the latest ruling of SC, 6 months waiting period is mandatory between both the motions for divorce by mutual consent.  good luck

Hi Riya..... that's sad news.

If you are looking for remarriage go for MCD if not i will suggest you go for contested for loooong time.

btw reunite also in Pune and i dont think so he is online here ............ we both go hunting in pune.

many of the old guys here are now on some good job or very buzy to peep here.

fyi - reunite's wife not ready to settle down with him and he too looking for partner ..... i know he is a good guy seeing his love for his son and will be a good husband .... buzz me if you interested and want me to be mediator ;)

Dear Riya,

Please tell your lawyer to speak to the husband or his lawyer and inform your wish to them about taking divorce on the grounds of mutual consent.

If that is not possible then your lawyer can always inform the court that the wife is willing to take divorce on the grounds of mutual consent. If that is agreed

between the parties then you may file a fresh petition on the grounds of mutual consent before the same court and in such circumstances,

husband has to withdraw his divorce petition that may have been filed on the grounds of cruelty against you.

After filing the divorce petition on the grounds of mutual consent, it will take six months for the completion of divorce.

There is  a supreme court order and no court has powers to condone the six months period. Hence i have little apprehension about the

suggestion made by your lawyer. Anyway it will be completed in six months.

Please fee free to revert back in case you need any further clarification.

Jai Bansal, Advocate

Chamber: -

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New Lawyer’s Chamber

Supreme Court of India,

New Delhi – 110001

Mob: 09868566649

Email: bansal.jai@gmail.com

Hi Riya,


First of all, I felt really bad after reading your current situation. Anyways, everything happens for the BEST. Let them go to hell and you should go for MCD (Mutual Consent Divorce) only. No use of contesting the same. You have already wasted a couple of years with him and please do not think of wasting more time in the courts or police stations. It's USELESS. Life is precious, and live every moment of it. Life is not meant to be WASTED in litigation. God is there to punish them for their wrong doings and you will see the same in your lifetime itself. Sharing this learning from my 'own' experiences. Rest is your choice.

If you plan to go for MCD then your husband will have to take his divorce case back and both of you need to file a fresh application u/s 13-B wherein nobody puts any allegations against each other. Second options can be to convert then existing divorce but please go for option one. Both of you can hire a single lawyer to represent both the parties. Please do share the conditions mentioned in the agreement of MCD.

I hope you had my email id. You could have sent me an email or a PM regarding the same. Hardik is also busy now a days.


Jai Hind,
Coool

Divorce is an agonizing issue and those involved usually feel like getting out of it as soon as possible. If you want to stop divorce, it is important that you can convince the other party to allow a second chance for the relationship to work again. Although this is not totally possible, it is still a critical step in stopping a divorce. The truth is, you can stop a divorce at any stage - The stage before it is filed or just before it requires the final paperwork. In fact, if you can stop a divorce as early as possible, you will be more likely to be able to save your relationship.

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Hi All,

Thank you for all your sugesstions, unfortunately I did  not get it when I needed. Anyways, he took back all his allegations when I said I need mutual. Me and my lawyer had to do nothing much. He did all the running part and I needed no alimoney. So the game got over. The counsellor does his formalities what he needed to do, and was trying to say that we will have to wait for 6 mmonths, however my lawyer said we were already seperated from each other since 2 months, meaning staying under one roof but not in one bedroom. There was no relation. Hence now the final date is on April 27th and he has given on writing that he has no allegations etc on me and so did I. I anyways did not do anything against him. I am free now and out of this shit. I know he will regreat big time. And he already is. He is making his cousins call me, sms me and asking them to patch him up with me. He is ready to stay with me seperately etc etc. I informed his cousin not to call me and I have moved on. I had never troubled him in the past and he wanted the divorce and I always tried to work the relation. And he going upto the court was too much. I have my self respect and have already gone thru lot of torture. It was him who wanted this, and requested his cousin not to trouble me please.

Guys please help me, now I doubt he is regretting a big time and realizing his mistake as usual. This time I do not wanna think abt him and this marriage. He thought he can again treaten me after I see the court notice and beg him to accept his terms and conditions to be a slave of his mother and leave him free in the night without questioning just coz he knew how much I wanted him. But now he is shocked to see that I easily accpepted the divorce and created no scene. Till date I did not call any of his relatives, nor my parents called any of his or our relatives and spoke nothing abt this stuff. We all are very cold and just leaving it and that phase as a bad dream. Now I am afraid if he changes his mind on April 27th. What should I do?? It was him who filed for it. Please please suggest me. He is dead for me and I have gone way beyond for this relation to work. People who know me, already know how much and upto what extent I went. I know he is regretaing big time, but I wanna move on in life yaar! Wasted my 2 years already, my child got killed, what else??

Please suggest!!

Riya (Mumbai)

Can you please share the details signed as a part of MoU of your divorce? What all conditions are there in that?

Jai Hind

Coool

Hi Cool Ris, no such conditions as such. Its just that both the parties has nothing agaist each other and ready for mutual divorce with no alimoney.

Okay then just ignore his calls / requests. Accept the MCD and move on in your lives. The BEST way to come out of the legal hassles.

~Jai Hind!

Coool

Riya dee..

Hi how r u ?

Its time u moved on and control the flood of emotions that u may encounter..u gave him time lots of chances..U just take divorce by MCD and am sure he will come as u dont take anything frm him nor any cases filed on him..but u must make it clear that uve made up ur mind and even if he doesn't come it wont matter as u will again go for divorce no mater what ..as people dont change even if u give so many chances..

If you want divorce then generally you need a help of divorce attorney. Your attorney will help you get divorce from that man and will even help you to file other charges on that man for the things he has done to you. Try charging him in court for the other bad things he has done. But NEVER TAKE LAWS IN YOUR HAND. Take help of an honest and good attorney.

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Hello my friends!!

I am seriously living a happy life and feeling light out of that shit hole! Now I even feel at times, I should even stop thinking abt remarriage and all. Life is so beautiful. Unfortunately I am a girl who loves to have kids, and a decent partner and have these small little dreams, so one or the other day I know I will be married But this time bahut sambhalke.

Anyways! my message to all is, just got one life let the bad things so away and see ahead what & how life is. Its very very beautiful. Now I go to my fav places which I always missed, into the mountains, nearby to my place, and read books sitting under the tree, I do yoga early in the morning, and look so very fit. I have toned up myself, and my skin is glowing, and no doubt that guys turn their heads looking at the grace and confidence I am carrying. I look basically very happy from insidde and outside. I am not boosting myself a lot, but this is how my life is changed, and its changed for good. Its just that, now nobody has anyright to rule my life, and make me sit, and stand up as per their choice. I was in a place where there was no love but also no humnitary. Buts its very true whatever happens, happends for good. God had sent me signals of not getting married to him before marriage but I fell looking at the tears and the way he said sorry. And this is my punishment. No worries, at least it did not happen after a very long time. I am still young, and looking more younger now. hahha.

I have no regreats and really thank god, for saving me and not left me with a kid to make it difficult, and given me education that I can work, and a beautiful heart that gave me so many friends and hands to help me all times when needed. But the best part that god gave me is the strength to smile no matter how tough the siatuation is. Life is not a cake walk, but its in our own hands to reach our destiny.

I will find true love, and have beautiful babies too :-) That's my destiny. Keep smiling all..and just wish everything in April goes very smooth.

Bye..

Riya (Mumbai)

I really appreciate ur courage riya dee...Its the universal truth tht uve come to knw of now..

Lead a good life with lots of peace, content and perseverance ..

Tk cre

Thank god for whatever he has done to you, be at peace and be happy always, Best of luck and let all your dreams come true. Just keep praying for others also those who are in problems that all thier shit ends up fast.

@ Riya - Don't be in a hurry to make a relationship as soon as that day or April is over and get kids. Take your sweet time and choose your pick, praying that you make the right choice and thinking that what happened had to happen and earlier the better, it happened so that you learn a few things and rhat it was in the best interests that it happned to you since you could deal with it and survive else if it were for someone else they would probably not have survived. When its the right time you would meet the right guy!!

Hi All,

Next Friday is my FINAL COURT DAY!

I am very happy, exited to finally come out of that leaglly too!

I am hoping things will fall in place, and he should not create any issues. There is no alimoney, no cases, no allegations from my end, so there is no question of issues. Correct?

Only one fear, the way he wanted me back and ready to do anything to get me back makes me scare a bit. I really do not hate him much now, I have forgiven him already. You know why? Coz I pity him a lot. He is a poor thing who cannot take any decissions in life. His own life is ruled by his rich mom and her family. His father is also the same under his wife coz of her wealth.

I am sure he will never ever get a girl like me, and who care abt him?

I know what I can get and can do.

Hey guys once I am out of this sucessfully, can we all meet? Atleast all the one's who were helping me from the time of my marriage and know every detail thing abt me and my past life. I really want to meet you all. Coz today whatever I am a big credit goes to each and every person who was fighting with me.

I love you all!

And do not worry, if you know you were not at fault you will suceed, But if you know you were in fault and yet not accepting it, its tough to get out of it. Best is, do not trouble to get trouble.

See you all,

God bless us all,

Riya!

Stop pitying your soon would be ex. Put him over your back , he should be just like anyother person you meet on the street where you could smile and even ask how are you. have no rather get over your emotions and sentiments to him...his period in your life is over! As as long as you carry his thoughts, have sentiments and emotions for him you will not be able to precced further in your life!!

Riya,

Good that you are out of this situation. I am coming to India on first week of June 2012 and we can meet at that time. Please do send me your number on hardikm007@gmail.com and we will be in touch with each other.

On 27 April, if he comes and signs the petition, then you are the free bird. If he does not come, then dont worry and take the next date. The court will give you the dates.

Sure Hardik!

This is the last date of the court. Everything was already done in the past, where both of us signed the petitions agreeing on mutual consent divorce. The period of 4 months were given, since 2 months were considered not staying with each other any ways.

I am sure he will come. And I am sure April 27th is the late date.

Riya.

Hi Guys!

A bit of unfortunate news is, I got one more date that is 5th of May, since my X put the date on the petition as Jan 2011, and in Jan 2012 we completed one year, and as per law, the seperation should be 6 months after that. Inspite of convincing they said the Judge will come back from his vacation after a week, and he will decide if he can wave off those 2 months or then I will have to wait for another 2 months. Why didnt they see all these things before giving a Date. Now I will have to see his face again.

I am okay, I waited for so long, aur do mahine ki baat hai! No problem.

Regards,

Riya!

Indian divorce law is just a waste of procedure and waste of time and money its created in a way that only lawyers enjoy. I am sure it was a lawyer who created this divorce process keeping in mind his personal professional well being.

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Hello All,

I am Divorced Officially from May 5th 2012. Yippie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All went well. His Zholer lawyer changed the date from 2011 to 2010 saying it was a typo error to the judge, so that the 2 months and 6 months separtaion issue does not exists. The judge asked to get the date changed and it was done. I kept quite since this thing would speed up the issue and let me get divorced on that date instead of waiting for more 2 months.

Anyways!! Thank you all my friends who supported me all this while since 2009. And now I will keep you posted about my future life as and when good things happen.

I feel I am single again. By the way my B'Day is coming this weekend and I have got my freedom back a week ahead of it!! I really thank God. What a shitty place I was. I am a bit scarred abt marriages and trusting guys now. But thank fully I did not go into any depression and thinking what people would think abt me after the divorce. This is MY LIFE. And we are worth to be happy. No one can make us a slave here.

And I really pray for you all. And I am sure you all would post the Best thing happened to you on this site one day. Just keep patience and get out of that asap.

Regards,

Riya!

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